rape 2014 serious terrifying kill it with fire oh hell no nope nope nope noping all the way home crazy hoe boyfriend stealer damn why wtf this is so wrong why do we tolerate this boyfriend hide yo kids hide yo wife rant
-So You Think You Can Toss Around The Word ‘Rape’ Eh?-
Recently I’ve come to the realization that some things that I never thought would happen to me or anyone close to me can happen. Sorry to come back with such a serious rant but this has to be addressed. First of all I’d like to say that anything can happen for those of you who don’t believe this then you need to leave. You’re not going to like what I’m about to say next.
My boyfriend early last week was actually cornered and forced into sexual contact with his ex-girlfriend (Which he wanted to be nice to for the longest time so he tried to remain friends with her.). This people I’d like to point out was done without his consent and is blatant rape. Yes, strong word. Yes some asshole is going to come along and spew about how ‘men can’t be raped’ but it doesn’t change the fact that this happened.
He took nearly a week to tell me in fear that I might’ve left him over it. This is understandable, when someone is placed into a corner by someone they trusted it usually doesn’t end well and in this case that stood true. This is very serious. I’m extremely shocked to see that someone I hold close to me was caught up in a situation like this. There’s really no need for anyone to do this to anybody.
When I was younger I thought that people would’ve been more senseful but after a tough emotional journey of having my trust broken again and again I found that I just don’t have it in me to be as kind and welcoming as I used to be. If anyone has read through my previous journal entries you’ll find that I’ve had to deal with a few rude awakenings from people that I poured my heart and soul into. This lady that committed this horrible act I knew from the get go that I couldn’t trust her. It’s a shame for me to shut people out, but it’s something that has to be done sometimes for my own protection.
I told my boyfriend what she was like, I’ve come across similar people before – she’s a boyfriend stealer and would do anything to get what she wanted even at the cost of others. He didn’t want to believe this, he was too kind until finally after this incident he had enough of this woman’s crap and broke off ties with her. Mind you this was after a long text war of her trying to guilt trip into thinking he treated her like crap because he didn’t spend as much time with her as he did with me (We do live together so you can only guess we spend a fair amount of time with one another.) which is horribly ridiculous. I came to one major conclusion besides the fact this woman needs to go and admit herself to an asylum and that’s the simple fact that she was obsessive over my boyfriend which is highly concerning in itself. We had a long talk about the whole thing and why this lady is probably dangerous to the people around her.
This goes into another point however that women can be just as dangerous as those ‘nasty men’. As a society we’re taught at a young age that men are usually the people who commit crimes, who kill, steal, rape when this a entirely false fact. Women are just as capable of doing these things as men are, you just don’t hear about it as often. This might be also due to the fact that society has a habit of showing more sympathy towards women than men. I don’t agree with this. This is what’s called a double standard. It’s very dangerous to turn a blind eye to the problems that people create. Which is why we have so many problems in the first place because people have learned to accept these flaws and standards as true. Like I may not have a degree in gender studies or law or even anthropology or any related field but from my experiences that I’ve had to deal with I can tell you all that this is a blaring problem within our structure as a species.
How do people expect for us to ever achieve a day where humanity doesn’t fight wars within itself or hate for the simple fact of hating if we can’t even get little things like this right? I’m sorry but nothing is going to fly until you solve the small stuff first. We need to chuck this double standard into the garbage and first have equality among people. Why should someone else be treated differently than another because of gender, race, sexuality, etc? Especially on a social/societal level. This tolerance we have for these kinds of things is unfortunately what breeds prejudices and discriminative behaviors.
I’m actually astounded that there’s even people out there that say their rights activists that promote these kinds of behaviors. I have no tolerance for hate in any form whatsoever neither should other people especially if they put themselves under rights banners. A prime example of people turning a blind eye or accepting a form of hatred would probably be the feminists that will come along and tell me that women don’t rape people and men can’t be raped. Like hello? Are you sure you’re standing up for equal rights? Are you sure you’re ever standing up for people’s rights at all?
People, I’m actually very shaken what happened to my boyfriend previously. This is some serious stuff. Things like this should certainly not be swept under the rug. Nor do we need a parade of people who use very harsh words such as ‘rape’ on things that aren’t rape. Throwing around a word to label something that isn’t at all associated with that word is crazy! That’s like if I were try and say that just because the sky is blue it’s made of water because water is blue! Nope. Just nope.
It’s been a damn while since I’ve had to deal with someone who acts as a thorn in my side. It’s one of those things that I don’t like to do very often and that I’ll probably never forget as long as I’m living. Life for the most part runs along smoothly but every now again other people like to make it difficult, sometimes I don’t even know why? What was the motive behind the action and why have that motive?
For this situation, this woman proved to be more trouble than what she’s worth just because she couldn’t have what I have. Like how childish is this? Sad thing is she’s nearly twenty-six. I would’ve thought that boyfriend stealing or any attempt to steal another woman’s man was only in those crappy soaps. I didn’t actually think that some hoe would try that with me and my boyfriend. So what you can’t have the one I have, go find someone else! There’s plenty of nice men out there to choose from or nice women if you swing that way.
What mind boggles me the most is the mentality that everyone else is the problem. Um, well wouldn’t you think that perhaps if you think everyone else is the problem would it ever cross your mind that maybe you’re a crappy person and that’s perhaps why people don’t like you or want to be around you. Sad but true. I’ve met a good dozen people like this. No one wants to hang around a complete asshole nor date one so why have this high and mighty ego thinking you’re the best thing around when clearly you’re not?
The other thing that unnerves me is the fact that this woman (Which I’ve seen this behavior before) acts as if the actions she does (Even if they’re horrible) are completely justified! My boyfriend told me after the whole incident that she thought that he was enjoying it because he was being ‘pleasured’ and thus felt no remorse. This is highly concerning on all levels because this mentality is what creates people who become rapists and murderers. Along with a very skewered sense of right and wrong. There’s reasons why when we’re children we’re taught what’s right and what’s wrong. It’s how we keep ourselves from going back to an uncivilized state. Can you imagine if murder was ok? If you could go out in the street, kill someone and not be punished or locked away for it? Christ I don’t think I’d ever want to live in a world like that. Chaos is not the answer, we don’t need it to keep our society rolling along smoothly.
This is entirely why I believe that no form of hatred should be tolerated and accepted. Yes I know I mentioned in a previous rant that what people consider ‘bullying’,’harassment’, etc is ridiculous but that’s where there needs to be a line drawn and people need to build a back bone for themselves. I know that not everyone out there is going to be nice, I know that there will be times that you’ll have to stand up for yourself and/or pick yourself back up and this is why I believe that people shouldn’t be tolerant to these behaviors and should be some what ‘tough’ if you will. Sadly humanity might never achieve this happy golden land where everyone is nice to one another because of human nature allows these flaws to exist, it allows people to veer off the correct path and plummet into corruption.
At the very least this woman won’t be bothering me nor my boyfriend again. He told me that if she ever tries to contact him or come near him again he’ll get a restraining order. So that is that as they say. I just hope that people will some day understand that every is capable of doing evil and is capable or making the wrong choices spite of their gender, sexuality, status, etc.
So with that off my chest, enjoy Canada Day everyone.